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    Posted by: Millie_poppy 09/02/2011 at 20:37
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    I have been thinking about starting a new thread for a while - I am being brave and taking the plunge!

    I have now been ttc for over a year. My GP won't help until 18 months have passed and I feel a bit in limbo, as people from the ttc thread will probably know. So, I am hoping to start a thread for those of us feeling a bit down. Those of us who have been trying for a while and for whom the excitement of the new journey is starting to turn to concern. For those of us who are actually starting to like the taste of grapefruit juice!

    Anyone with me?

     

    Millie xx
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    Posted by: Millie_poppy 09/02/2011 at 20:41
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    Hmmm. Just realised I should probably say, that I am aware that there are some ladies for whom 'ages' is much longer than me (and of course some for whom 'ages' is less time). I do worry about offending and upetting people an extraordinary amount!
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    Posted by: Torri 09/02/2011 at 20:42
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    I'm with you Millie. Been trying for 2 years now and getting a bit despondent. :( Hugs. T xxx
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    Posted by: Miss Bangles 09/02/2011 at 20:52
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    Millie_poppy:
    For those of us who are actually starting to like the taste of grapefruit juice!
    I never ever thought this would be me...but yes! My name is Miss B and I love grapefruit juice. It's been 1 hour since my last 'hit', I am a grapefruitjuiceoholic...(feels so good to say it out loud Wink)

    Feeling your pain sweets, been trying to stay off tes as I was finding it tricky. I'm so happy when a lady on ttc gets a BFP, but also it can feel like a stab in the heart too.

    I need to get myself to the docs (been 14 months now). Not sure why I just can't pluck up the courage...probably because it's unlikely we'd go down the intervention route and then I'd know for sure that 'that's that then' (jeez can you use 'that' 3 times in a row??) 

    Much love to you millie, everything crossed for you. x x x x

     

     

     
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    Posted by: Millie_poppy 09/02/2011 at 20:56
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    ((Torri)).I wanted to use the word despondent in my original post, but wasn't sure on spelling Embarrassed I feel that the ttc journey will be getting progressively harder - but also frustrated as there is nothing I can do right now! I kind of wanted a place to moan without feeling guilty and like a killjoy for all the new ttc-ers. How are you feeling about things now?
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    Posted by: Torri 09/02/2011 at 21:04
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    Thanks Millie, I'm feeling ok just beginning to think I'll never get pregnant (which is silly as I KNOW it will happen) I have to keep telling myself that otherwise will feel really bad. As you say just want somewhere to have a moan. :( T xxx
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    Posted by: Dannii100 09/02/2011 at 21:35
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    Millie_poppy:
    I have now been ttc for over a year. My GP won't help until 18 months have passed
     

    Hi Millie, sorry to hear you're down. Is it worth going to the doctors again, or seeing a different one? After a year off  the pill (but I had only ttc for about 7 -10 months) I told the doctors that I had been ttc for a year, and he was ready to get the ball rolling. He asked me to go get a blood test, and asked me to get husband to go to the doctors to basically see if his sperm is ok by giving a sample. Anyway, ironically about a week later I got a BFP. What, i'm trying to say is though, if my doctor was ready to test me at a year of ttc, maybe you might want to go again to get the ball rolling too?

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    Posted by: Millie_poppy 09/02/2011 at 21:40
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    Miss Bangles:

    Feeling your pain sweets, been trying to stay off tes as I was finding it tricky. I'm so happy when a lady on ttc gets a BFP, but also it can feel like a stab in the heart too.

    I need to get myself to the docs (been 14 months now). Not sure why I just can't pluck up the courage...probably because it's unlikely we'd go down the intervention route and then I'd know for sure that 'that's that then' (jeez can you use 'that' 3 times in a row??) 

    I know what you mean about finding it tricky. I also am not sure how far down the intervention route OH and I would want to go. If we have an issue which can be 'fixed' relatively 'easily', obviously that would be something we would want, but we are not sure if it came to something like IVF if that would be a route we would choose. Which as you say, involves coming to terms with 'that's that then'. (I think you can use that 3 times if you want!) Life really is feeling like a pooburger right now!

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    Posted by: mollymania 09/02/2011 at 21:41
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    Sounds like the thread for me! We have been trying for 13 months now and it is so hard to live with the disappointment. Due to my age (37) my GP has already referred us to a specialist - but this has led to its own frustrations. This is the first time of trying for both of us. I have had all blood tests done - all fine. OH has done his tests - normal for his age, a multi-vitamin would help but no major issues. We are now waiting for a test to check my tubes - you have to phone up on a specific day in your cycle and the last 3 months I have phoned to be told they have no appointments left, argh, they only do these tests two days each week and they can only see 3 women each day. It feels like I am stuck and can't move on without this test (but of course I keep hoping I won't need it because next month might be our month).

    Meanwhile I am exercising and dieting and trying to get my weight down as I need to be below a certain weight/BMI if I need to be referred for IVF (I am not sure IVF is something I want to do but don't want to be told I can't have it if I do decide I want it - if that makes any sense). Also consultant said losing 5-10% of your body weight if you are overweight (or gaining that much if you are underweight) can kick start your fertility so I felt I had nothing to lose (except the weight!). It is a powerful incentive to eat carefully and do more exercise but hard when you are feeling so despondent and fed up and want a chocolate fix!

    In the time we have been trying a good friend has become pregnant and now had her beautiful baby boy and 4 staff at my school have announced pregnancies. It feels like fertility/infertility is taking over my life!

     BTW I am not a fan of grapefruit juice (unless it is the pink grapefruit variety) but I do find One Born Every Minute compulsive viewing - even though it makes me cry every week!

    Sorry to ramble on Millie, I feel like I am hijacking your thread - my apologies. x
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    Posted by: Millie_poppy 09/02/2011 at 21:45
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    Oooh, sorry Dannii, crossed posts.

    I think my OH is going to see if his GP will do SA for him (we have different surgery) and then depending on the results of that I will go back. I saw GP after a year and he said because I was 'relatively young' (29) and normal BMI to give it another 6 months. I know the NICE guidelines say different, but if I go back now, just a couple of months after being told to give it longer, I think he will just say the same. Humph.

    Hey, this thread is already making me feel better in a therapeutic kind of way - thanks ladies! 
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