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    Posted by: ff392 04/02/2012 at 16:48
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    Having been separated for a year , I've realised the reason I can't stop thinking about someone I know is because I really like them !!!! He's single and we both go to the same sports group ! With the other people, I can chat away but not to Him ! We smile at each other and have spoken briefly! He's not been very well so not been to the club so I emailled him to say hope to see him back soon !!!! We've exchanged a few emails but have absolutely no idea what to now do ! Laugh , in my 40s and feel like a teenager ?!?! Help !!!!
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    Posted by: The Pobble 04/02/2012 at 16:54
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     I wouldn't have a clue either.

    Maybe invite him out for a drink when he is feeling better. Just do it

    But as I said, I wouldn't have a clue. Perhaps someone else will have some personal experience that will help!

    meanwhile just enjoy the experience. It must feel good, all girly and young again!

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    Posted by: Miss2012 04/02/2012 at 17:09
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    Enjoy!
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    Posted by: nick909 04/02/2012 at 18:06
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    Invite him out.  A drink or two will loosen tongues and smooth over any nerves.  No more though.  Getting hammered on a first date is rarely a good idea, other than when both parties make a mutual decision to do so, in which case it still might not be a very good idea, except on those rare occasions when it's the best idea in the world (in these cases you will invariably end up marrying them - I talk from experience).

    If you still find you can't engage in any meaningful conversation, it may be for a very good reason.  He may be thicker than a very great many short planks, for example.  If it turns out then that attraction is purely physical, then of course it's up to you as to whether that's necessarily a good reason to curtail the relationship straight away, but...ahem...be careful, as always.
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    Posted by: ff392 04/02/2012 at 18:47
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    Thanks for the replies !! Don't think I'm brave enough to ask him to go for a drink !! Suppose easier to talk to others in club as clearly don't fancy them !!! Laugh at myself being like this !! No-one else knows what I'm thinking !!
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    Posted by: oldsomeman 04/02/2012 at 19:01
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     FGS....get a grip of yourself.....he probabaly feels the same way and it could be he is shy.

    Find an event.....ask him if he woukd care to go as your needing and escort and could he oblige.believe me you will know if he is right for you......it dont take long to suss it out.

    Men can be shy.they can also be innocent in 'chatting up folk.I used to be when i was a young man i didnt date at all till i was 18! However, unless you want to live i limbo land you have to do something ..........whatever you do please dont appear deserate.A relationship should be based upon resect and interests and hopefully he wil do that...if e wants to bed you then beware,,,unless your willing.try making him wait til at least the 2nd date lol

    Above all enjoy because it is the great adventure of life, to learn to love again and to be wanted

    Good hunting!

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    Posted by: Miss2012 05/02/2012 at 18:55
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    ff392:
    Thanks for the replies !! Don't think I'm brave enough to ask him to go for a drink !! Suppose easier to talk to others in club as clearly don't fancy them !!! Laugh at myself being like this !! No-one else knows what I'm thinking !!

     

    Does your club have social events - perhaps thats the way to go!!
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    Posted by: ff392 05/02/2012 at 20:52
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    Yes we all went out for a meal in January - happily chatting to everyone but I just clam up when I go to chat to him!!

    As its a sports club I dont exactly look my best as by the end of it....

    Part of me can't be bothered as feel worn out with 3 teenage boys and a full time job!

    Confused
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    Posted by: oldsomeman 05/02/2012 at 21:03
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    ff392:

    As its a sports club I dont exactly look my best as by the end of it....

    Part of me can't be bothered as feel worn out with 3 teenage boys and a full time job!

    Confused
     

    find a aplaceaway if you can....and arrange for the boys to be looked after if you can.....or better stil at a wekend so your less tired......might be time to talk to them and ask/tell them your hoping to court? and get them ready for a ;new' man who might be around.

    Personally if you going to make love to him then i would suggest a neutral place to do so rather than home..just keep using those eyes and body language...unless he is a total daft man he will get the message.

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    Posted by: Miss2012 05/02/2012 at 22:20
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    Wo you fast move oldsomeman .... think this poster just embarking on this new stage of life not leaping into bed with sporting chap!!
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