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    Posted by: mystique_scarlet2006 05/02/2012 at 18:26
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    Sorry for the drivel that is about to ensue below, but I don't feel that I can be truly honest with any of my friends or family, so am hoping that people on here won't mind listening!

    I am 27 years old and am an English teacher with responsibility for whole school PSHCE in Birmingham. I am currently living at home due to money limitations.

    I have been at my current school for 3 years (currently in my 4th) and for the first time ever, my morale is so low, both in work and social commitments, and I don't know why!

    I never have any energy at work or home! I just about get by managing my classes on adrenaline, but as soon as I get home, I feel so tired that I put my head down on the pillow for a few minutes rest - and wake up 4-5 hours later. Despite this, I will still go back to bed for 6+ hours and get up the next morning feeling tired.

    Because of this, I get myself in a cycle where I take home urgent work to do, and as I fall asleep, I then wake up too late to get it done.

    I am also finding that I am getting what I can only describe as dull headaches more and more on a daily basis. These usually develop about 30 minutes to 1 hour after school has finished (sometimes they can start during the school day), and can be quite painful sometimes, and will only go if I take a strong painkiller or go to sleep.

    I am also finding myself to be very easily upset more than I used to be. Little sarky comments from other staff members that I would usually laugh off really get to me, although I never show it!

    It's the same at home. Today is my 27th birthday - and had planned with my mom and stepdad to go out for lunch. They asked me yesterday if I would mind not going out for lunch and getting a takeaway instead. This way, we wouldn't have to brave the weather, and they could carry on their DIY in the kitchen. They insisted it was my choice. My heart really wanted to go out, but my head said "make them happy and just stay in". Idiotically, I went with my head. I have now spent most of the day in tears regretting that decision - wondering why I just didn't think about myself for once.

     My head is all over the place - and I just need some advice. Is there something wrong with me? Or am I just being self-centred?

     

     
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    Posted by: rosievoice 05/02/2012 at 18:31
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    Go to see your GP. I believe you are unwell, chick. You don't seem self-centred to me, just burnt-out. Get yourself signed off until you are stronger. xx
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    Posted by: lilachardy 05/02/2012 at 18:31
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    What does your doctor think?
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    Posted by: mystique_scarlet2006 05/02/2012 at 18:35
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    rosievoice:

    Go to see your GP. I believe you are unwell, chick. You don't seem self-centred to me, just burnt-out. Get yourself signed off until you are stronger. xx

    The thing is, I don't think I could stand being at home that much! My step-dad has recently been medically retired and is home 24/7 - his new hobby being DIY, and as he has just had recent heart surgery (well, it was in May 2011), he can't do everything himself!

     
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    Posted by: mystique_scarlet2006 05/02/2012 at 18:37
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    lilachardy:

    What does your doctor think?

     

    Haven't been, if I'm honest. As I have put on weight recently, I am just expecting him to tell me to lose weight and get on with it!
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    Posted by: lilachardy 05/02/2012 at 18:37
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    So there's the issue of your health, and also your living arrangements. Do you HAVE to live there?
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    Posted by: mystique_scarlet2006 05/02/2012 at 18:40
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    lilachardy:

    So there's the issue of your health, and also your living arrangements. Do you HAVE to live there?

    With the weight, I am in a vicious circle. I get focused ona  diet, have a bad day at work (as described in my 1st post) and then all I want to do is eat.

    I can't afford anywhere else at the moment - although I am saving!
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    Posted by: aw27 05/02/2012 at 18:42
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    Your doctor won't say anything like that. S/he will be concerned that your excessive sleeping is a symptom of depression, and will no doubt want to monitor it. I would imagine your headaches are anxiety related. Make an appointment go and speak to your doctor NOW! Look after yourself - it you don't deal with this now it will only get worse and you will end up physically ill and off work anyway.
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    Posted by: lilachardy 05/02/2012 at 18:44
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    Check your inbox too!
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    Posted by: ROSIEGIRL 05/02/2012 at 18:47
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     Def worth a check up.

    Lots of possibilities but it could be something as simple as anaemia - that made me really sleepy.

    You can get some advice about your general health and sleep patterns and take it from there. No point waiting!

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