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I am relativly new to a school and the kids found out my first name
They have tried calling me it in lesson once and I shot them down.
However, I now do duty and the kids like to shout out my name at me, sometimes even to my face. As someone who is over 6 foot I stand out.
What is the correct response to dealing with the miscreants?
Kids are like people: they thrive on challenges, puzzles and mysteries. The more we forbid them from knowing our first name, the more they want to know it. They're interested in us; understandably so-- we spend hours on end cooped up together in a room with them. Naturally they'll want to know our name, where we live and who we love.
When they call you by your first name I wouldn't shoot them down. A simple response works: "that's my name. My name is Dave. I do not want you to call me by that name, through. I want to be called Miss Headey, or just Miss. If you call me by my first name again I will punish you by taking five minutes of your lunch."
Sometimes it's right to shout and get angry with children. Sometimes it's right to show that you care about what a kid has done. I don't feel this is one such occasion.
If they do call you Dave again, they loose five minutes. Don't act like you care, through. Blasé. Blasé. Blasé.
Not much help, but I absolutely hate the way new teachers, even student teachers, are made to do duty. It is so unbelievably obvious that that's not likely to be a suitable task to give them. Why is it not well known in SLT circles that that is not a wise move?
My only advice is to try to learn names as quick as possible, so you can deal with them, or report them up. Also do not let them see they have personally annoyed you, as the other poster says.
If they are shouting your name across the playground you need to do someting about it. I had a similar occurence and came down hard. Anyone shouting my name out got put into after school detention. If it was one of a group, any identifiable member of that group got the same. I had phone calls from parents, to which I replied that this was a form of bullying/intimidation and I stuck to my guns. Name calling soon stopped. Enlist the help of pastoral managers & explain what's going on. You cannot let them intimidate you, making you afraid to go into the playground/ walk the corridors etc.
joedoggyukKids are like people:
kittylionjoedoggyukKids are like people:
Ha :) Thought I was on Twitter for a second
Just to emphasise what's been said before. Students should use a teacher's formal title whenever they interact; and we need to overcome any squeamishness that some people still have about this, as if it were somehow the thin end of an totalitarian wedge. It's a perfectly suitable cue that there is a formal relationship between teacher and student. And in a society where the lines between child and adult are blurred enough, it's important.
Do NOT freak out at kids doing this, or you fuel the fire that inspires their antics. They already know that they;re not supposed to use your given name (how did they find it out I wonder? Check your social networks aren't open like a pair of flies). Simply give them one warning and remind them that your name is Mr X (I am guessing you aren't the leader of a band of mutants) and they need to use it. If they persist, give them some quality detention time, and stick to it. Better to be seen as a hard ass when you start, than Oi Dave. And you'll show them you mean business about everything else.
If you don't sort this, it can become corrosive for your rep in school. Just be cool as Fonzie about it, or you'll tempt them to repeat. And if you need help with names, get another teacher involved. A phone call home for an informal chat would work wonders, too. Most parents would appreciate that their kids shouldn't cheek the teachers like this.
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My name is Dave. I do not want you to call me by that name, through. I want to be called Miss Headey, or just Miss.
I'd think the more difficult problem here is having a Miss Headey with a first name of Dave. Surely he/she will be mocked if that ever came out.
Most of the kids where I work know my first name. It doesn't bother me to be honest; but if they call my name out, I explain that they need to call me Miss or Miss Basini. I don't respond if they continue. Eventually they get fed up of being ignored.
Hope this helps. Good Luck.
PS - Miss B is also acceptable in the classroom for some students - but the kids sometimes struggle to pronounce my Italian surname!
DannytheredRespect is NOT in a name - it is in how you relate to people ............... note I do not use the term 'kids' ..... time to move from the C19th to the C21st methinks!
Ive found that threatening to call them by their surname each time they use my first name has worked a treat.They understand that its a line they shouldnt cross.Thats why they want to cross it and try you out. They also dont want to be called by their surname. No child does.
Keep it light hearted. Although if they take the mickey and it becomes a bullying/intimidation issue then of course youd need to start using detentions.
Do not let the students see that they have gotten to you. But what is the problem with them knowing your first name?
This entire job works at its best when we have excellent relationships with students. Having a quiet word with them and explaining that it is inappropriate to call you by your first name rather than shouting at them would be my suggestion.
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